Holding a grudge hurts us physically and psychologically.
The Bible makes me think Jesus was obsessed with forgiveness. He never stopped talking about the need to forgive others. His parables spoke of a God who was forgiving, and expected His creations to be forgiving as well.
Jesus portrayed forgiving others as essential to living life abundantly.
Jesus and science are in complete agreement on that matter, as studies have given scientific evidence for many of the things the Bible tells us about forgiving others.
When You Forgive, You Heal Faster
Scientists have found that victims of severe abuse who forgive their abuser receive measurable improvements in psychological and physical health. When compared to control groups, the forgivers healed faster and more completely.
But there’s a catch—forgiveness isn’t a one-time, leave-it-all-behind moment. It’s a continual process.
Specific techniques vary across practitioners, but the basic model is the same. Scientists shows us that our brains can’t forgive people who’ve hurt us until we grieve the pain we’ve experienced, work to understand the perspective of our abuser, decide to forgive them and then work toward some level of acceptance or compassion toward the one who wounded us.
You can’t forgive and forget—our brains don’t work that way. You can only learn to move on without wishing harm on the one who harmed you.
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