John Stonestreet on How Christians Should Partake in Difficult Conversations at Thanksgiving

A new holiday trend, as evidenced by Google searches, is “Friendsgiving.” Instead of having to talk politics or religion with that opinionated parent, aunt, or uncle over Thanksgiving dinner, some folks – especially younger adults – are choosing friends over family on Turkey Day. After all, why risk an argument that will ruin the day for everyone?

Of course, there is nothing wrong with celebrating Thanksgiving with friends, but we shouldn’t shy away from conversations about things that matter, even if the topics are super-controversial—like, oh, I don’t know, same-sex “marriage,” the impeachment hearings, immigration, or the Dallas Cowboys.

There are two keys to civil, interesting, and productive conversations. First, we need to be confident in our beliefs. If we are, we are far less likely to be threatened by opinions and ideas we know aren’t true. Second, we need to love our enemies. And since we aren’t facing any hostile foreign invasions this holiday season, that means our ideological enemies. Remember that Jesus loves even those we find intolerable, so we must decide to treat them with respect.

And now, here’s a strategy for those tough conversations. Ask good questions. Questions turn monologues into dialogues, surface-level discussions into something deeper, and they might even open a closed mind or two.

Here are six questions I’ve found extremely helpful in any conversation:

First, What do you mean by that? The battle of ideas is always the battle over the definition of words. Thus, it’s vital in any conversation to clarify the terms being used. For example, a very important thing to clarify about whether Christians should support same-sex marriage is the definition of marriage. If the topic comes up, stop and ask, “Hold on, before we go too far into what kind of unions should be considered marriage, could you tell me what you mean by marriage?” Often, when it comes to these crucial issues, we’re using the same vocabulary as those with whom we disagree, but we’re not using the same dictionary.

Here’s a second question: How do you know that is true? Too often, assertions are mistaken for arguments. There’s a vast difference between the two. An assertion is a definitive statement made about the nature of reality. An argument is presented to back up an assertion. By asking “How do you know that’s true?” you’ll move the conversation beyond two people merely asserting what they believe to why those assertions should be taken seriously.

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Source: Christian Headlines