When Andy and Tina Plank discovered that their son Sam had killed himself, one of their first calls was to the minister of their church.
As soon as he got the news, J.C. Austin dropped everything and met them at the hospital.
Newly installed as senior pastor at First Presbyterian Church of Bethlehem, Pa., Austin had only been working there for a few months, a relative newcomer who had arrived in the wake of a bitter internal feud over doctrine and practice that split the congregation.
Now he had to step in to bring comfort to a family at the worst moment of their lives.
“The church has to be right in the middle of offering pastoral care to those impacted,” he said.
Offering pastoral care included helping the Planks tell the story of their son’s life and death.
A freshman at Kutztown University who had only been in college for a week, Sam Plank was 18 when he died. His story didn’t have to be public: Many aren’t. But his parents decided almost as soon as the tragedy occurred to talk candidly about how their son died.
“Part of my healing journey,” said Tina Plank, “is getting this story out there so that perhaps we can save another family.”
Numerous faith traditions have a history of criticizing suicide as a sin — and one that leads to damnation.
But some faith leaders are now working not only to offer those facing despair help in addressing the root causes of suicide but to remove the stigma that keeps so many suffering families quiet after the death of a loved one.
The fact is that across America, the suicide rate is on the rise, contributing to a drop in life expectancy. For Americans aged 10-34, it’s the second-leading cause of death, a silent epidemic that has now begun to get sustained attention. And a survey of Protestant churchgoers found that 1 in 3 had a family member or friend who had committed suicide.
Even with access to multiple secular agencies that step in when there’s a crisis, it’s still often local clergy who are called to work with a family in the first throes of shock and grief.
Sam, a former tour guide at Hellertown, Pa.’s Lost River Caverns who had a profound love for nature, died on March 5, 2018.
As soon as they got the news, Andy Plank said, members of their fellowship gathering, known as a Koinonia group, sprang into action. “They were there that night and day, helping us get through it, organizing places for people to stay, praying and holding on to us.”
A year later, he still recalls the details of that dark time with gratitude, including all the people who volunteered help with the reception – and helped them find a funeral home. He also credits the family’s former congregation, Pluckemin Presbyterian in New Jersey, with rallying to their side.
A group for those grappling with anxiety or depression was already in the works at First Presbyterian when Sam died, according to Tina Plank. In the months that followed his death, the congregation also instituted a gathering for congregants who were grieving.
Sam’s grandmother, Ellen Plank, also turned to her church — First Presbyterian Church in West Chester, Pa. — to help her grieve his death.
“If it wasn’t for this church, I probably wouldn’t be sitting here,” she said. “They were such a comfort.”
After a few months, she approached the church’s associate pastor, Caroline Cupp, and asked: How can we talk about teen suicide here?
After giving it careful thought, the staff arranged two meetings with mental health professionals, many of whom happen to be members of the church. One was oriented toward adults, many of them parents and grandparents. The other was focused on young people closer to Sam’s age, with the aim of assisting them to recognize signs of depression and how to reach out to adults.
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Source: Religion News Service