A few days ago I had the pleasure of sitting down with Edward Mullins, president of the Sergeants Benevolent Association of the New York Police Department, to discuss potential ways of improving community-police relationships. He has been working with outstanding community leaders like Pastor A.R. Bernard, and they sincerely want to achieve a highly successful outcome to a problem of trust that has spread throughout the nation.
One of their proposals involves the establishment of police-sponsored athletic leagues throughout the city. There would be friendly competition between the teams that would be composed of community residents and police. This would, of course, allow both sides to get a chance to know each other and form a relationship that is not adversarial.
Most of human societal progress is accomplished through relationships. People who are traditional adversaries can rapidly become friends when they work together, get to know each other and develop positive relationships. This opens the doors of communication and people tend to give each other the benefit of the doubt when they know them. On the other hand, when communications break down, as they frequently do before divorce, the two previously friendly partners often become bitter enemies.
I have no doubt that these kinds of solutions proposed by Mr. Mullins will be very helpful not only in New York City but across the nation. Unfortunately, there are those in our society who will continue to endeavor to stir up strife and fuel hatred. These individuals wish to create dissatisfaction in almost all areas of American life. Thus, we have a war on women, age wars, income wars, race wars and religious wars. If it appears that our society is falling apart at the seams, it creates more fertile ground for a fundamental change. This divide-and-conquer strategy has proved effective for many groups wishing to topple a prevailing culture over the years. It will also be effective in creating chaos and anarchy in our society if we do not begin to more carefully analyze and control our emotional reactions.
If like Mr. Mullins and Mr. Bernard, we are willing to sit down and rationally discuss solutions to our differences, we can build a bond of unity that will be stronger than the inevitable conflicts that accompany life in a complex society. Yes, it does require conviction, effort and even some humility to be willing to make oneself vulnerable enough to invest in a relationship with someone previously unknown. The alternative of continued and worsening hatred and violence makes such a risk extremely worthwhile for all parties involved.
We the American people are not each other’s enemies, and we certainly do not need to continue to try to tear each other down, especially when groups like the Islamic State are trying to destroy us. Our fractured relationships simply make their job much easier. We must be able to look ahead and see the big picture of strength that results from a united front and peace that is derived through cultivating friendships.
SOURCE: The Washington Times
Ben S. Carson is author of the book “One Vote: Make Your Voice Heard” (Tyndale).